I’ve been called a jerk so many times I accept it as true.\u00a0 I have for a long time.\u00a0 I just recently was wondering why.<\/p>\n
Me being a jerk is undoubtedly a complex thing, with multiple causes from the perspectives of different people.\u00a0 Further, my internal analysis of my being a jerk is undoubtedly biased and not really trustworthy for those who think I’m a jerk.\u00a0 It’s my blog, though, so I’m gonna write what I wanna.<\/p>\n
The first thing I think when I think about how I’m a jerk is how I don’t really think I’m a jerk.\u00a0 If I knew me, I wouldn’t be thinking, “That guy is a jerk.”\u00a0 Lets examine this further.<\/p>\n
I do admit to saying many jerky things, most of them are in the pursuit of humor, though.\u00a0 I think I get a lot of my jerk label from this.\u00a0 Some people just aren’t cool with humor at the expense of others, even if that other isn’t them.\u00a0 I don’t think this makes me a jerk, though.\u00a0 I think it’s funny.\u00a0 I think it brings laughter to the world.\u00a0 I do it to myself, I think it’s fair.\u00a0 This is a matter of opinion, though, so if you want to consider me a jerk for this, that’s fine.\u00a0 I just disagree.<\/p>\n
The next jerky thing I do is ignore and\/or argue with most advice given to me.\u00a0 Like, people who think I’m a jerk will say, “You should consider the feelings of others,” or, “You’re disgusting.”\u00a0 That last one usually refers to a belch, or my clothes, or my hair, or whatever.\u00a0 There’s a lot of advice about my looks I get that I ignore.\u00a0 I bet people don’t like it that I don’t take their advice.\u00a0 I mean, I don’t particularly enjoy how almost all my advice is ignored.<\/p>\n
So, this brings up really two categories of my jerkiness.\u00a0 First, my disregard for some of societies rules, like don’t belch.\u00a0 I can’t really argue with me being defined as a jerk this way.\u00a0 I think the word “jerk” probably has a connotation meaning something like, “someone who disregards minor societal rules.”\u00a0 Now, I have my reasons, but that doesn’t matter.\u00a0 So, thinking I’m a jerk for this reason seems legitimate to me, but I would argue that this is a tiny offense, and should be outweighed by my other qualities.<\/p>\n
The second is my ignoring of advice.\u00a0 This is also classic jerk behavior, but I think I deserve a pass.\u00a0 The reason is that I’m not wrong.\u00a0 The people giving me advice are.\u00a0 Now, obviously, everyone reading this is going to think of examples when they’ve been the ones giving me advice and they obviously don’t agree, and obviously most people who don’t take advice would feel as I do, but that’s just my point.\u00a0 Someone has to be wrong, so at least half of all advice should<\/em> be ignored.\u00a0 I don’t just ignore all advice given to me, I consider all of it, and take that which is correct.\u00a0 Really, what more can you ask for?<\/p>\n I also brag a lot, which seems like jerk behavior.\u00a0 Really this falls into the joke category, because I think it’s funny.\u00a0 I think it’s funny because the bragging does not correspond to a feeling of superiority.\u00a0 I can see how it would mostly only be funny to me, though.\u00a0 Of all my jerk behavior, this is the one I think most deserving of correction.\u00a0 I think quite highly of myself, but I don’t really need to point it out all the time.\u00a0 Still, a couple things in my defense.\u00a0 One, most of the joke bragging is bragging about things I clearly have no real influence on.\u00a0 Like, how I’m skinny despite what I eat, or how I require little sleep.\u00a0 Two, I have to defend myself when I can cause everyone thinks I’m a jerk.\u00a0 \ud83d\ude1b In seriousness, though this behavior does make me a jerk, I think it’s pretty minor.\u00a0 And I have my reasons, again, that don’t matter.<\/p>\n The final jerk behavior I exhibit, at least to my own reckoning, is newly articulated in my mind.\u00a0 It boils down to that I don’t keep my mouth shut.\u00a0 I pipe up almost every time those around me say or do something I disagree with.\u00a0 I’m constantly putting little crimps in people’s world views, dings in beliefs, it makes me fairly disagreeable, in the literal sense.\u00a0 Even if I don’t actually put dings in beliefs, the fact that I try still qualifies me as a jerk.\u00a0 But this is wrong.\u00a0 This is not how the world should be.\u00a0 The world is not divided into separate spheres where each person gets their own bubble to do whatever they want with, only joining with those around long enough to exchange compliments and pass over disagreements.\u00a0 The world is interconnected and the mistakes of those around me will affect me and the rest of the world.\u00a0 Sitting by and letting people believe the incorrect is the real jerk thing to do.\u00a0 This category of my jerkiness I do not accept.\u00a0 In fact, I argue this jerk behavior is one of my strongest character strengths.\u00a0 I fight ignorance and illogicality <\/span>as I can, with little support, and quite a lot of resistance, and I do it primarily for those other than myself.<\/p>\n I’ve not really argued against my being a jerk, and I’m not going to.\u00a0 I am a jerk.\u00a0 The point is I’m a lot of other things first.\u00a0 Besides all that above I do many other things.\u00a0 I share all I have with whoever wants it.\u00a0 I specifically give things I enjoy to others if they will enjoy it more.\u00a0 I help when asked, and when I obviously can even if I’m not asked.\u00a0 I donate my blood, my hair, my time, my computer cycles, and when I get some, my money.\u00a0 I’m on the list to donate my marrow, and if I die I’ve stated I want to donate everything I got.\u00a0 I’m ridiculously honest.\u00a0 I never do anything with intent to harm.\u00a0 I conserve.\u00a0 I write my congressman.\u00a0 I forgive easily.\u00a0 I take responsibility for my actions.\u00a0 I never risk compromising these qualities by altering my mind with chemicals.<\/p>\n My point is the things that make me a jerk are trivial compared to the things that make me a good guy.\u00a0 So, it’s correct to call me a jerk, but it should be more obvious, and is more correct, to call me a stand up citizen and friend to humanity.<\/p>\n I could start discussing the various cyclic loops in this whole subject of the jerk, but I think I should stick a fork in this post.\u00a0 Gonna do some homework or something.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" I’ve been called a jerk so many times I accept it as true.\u00a0 I have for a long time.\u00a0 I just recently was wondering why. 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